A friend of mine died last week. She was 82, but not stereotypically so. She was the definition of vibrant, filled with color and light and energy. Today is her funeral. She set aside $1,000.00 so that those in attendance could have a toast of champagne to celebrate her life. I am attending the services in spirit, and I know she’s good with that. I sat on my porch and had a pretty glass of Sparkling Cider (I know she’s good with that, too) and thought about her and what she has brought to my life.
Celeste Martin Rast was in an on-line discussion group I was in, and I was touched that someone who was 82 would be living her life in such a way that she would still be interested in talking about life, spirit, and choice. Her willingness to both learn and teach in that group was inspiring. I feel very privileged to have been part of it. Many members of our group talked about how we wanted to BE Celeste when we grow up.
Since hearing of her passing, I have been thinking a lot about transitions, because some of Celeste’s spirit now resides in my heart, reminding me to live all the way to the edges of my life. Reminding me to just BE. Our friend Patti Digh was the leader of our group and was touched to be asked to speak at Celeste’s funeral today. She sent this message out to the world this morning…”To live in hearts we leave behind is not to die”. -Thomas Campbell. Perfect reminder for the day.
We move through life and go from one place to the next, leaving connections and trails in some parts, and breaking away from things in other parts. How we commemorate and FEEL those transitions is interesting. I have noticed that usually when something is on my mind, the universe sends me a lot of clues about that, and I also read this today, from “The Art of Non-Conformity” writer Chris Guillebeau…
“I say: hold on to the moment as long as you can. Fight for it if you have to. Get up early and stay up late. Be brave. Choose the raw emotion, even the awkwardness if necessary. If we must go on to something else, let’s at least think about what was and what could have been. The more intense the feeling, the better. If synchronicity and the feeling of being part of something meaningful comes with sadness, loneliness, and disappointment, so be it. I just know that I don’t want the alternative—mediocrity, routine, the safe and the
I want that to be me…I want to choose to be brave, and feel what I feel, and if that means I am feeling that raw emotion and showing my awkwardness, that’s okay. I would rather be that than just let things go without notice, without acknowledgment, without feeling.
So to my friend Celeste…a toast. To life, and choice, and to living life right out loud. Thank you for touching my life. I wish you well and know that you left magic here for us to keep sharing. Love, love, love…